Love or Abuse: Recognising Domestic Abuse

Navigating through a divorce or recovering from domestic abuse can be an incredibly challenging and isolating experience. Often victims and survivors are left reeling, going through stories and events over and over again, self-blaming when the reality the same and faults are not on them but solely on the abusers. Individuals who have experienced abuse in their relationships report feelings of overwhelmed, lost, and unsure of how to move forward. However, with the right support and guidance, this difficult period can also be a time of profound growth and transformation.

The first step to recovery is identifying behaviours that are abusive in the relationship, so that there are no doubts int he victims' minds that none of these behaviours are excusable or acceptable. Here is a list of common abusive behaviours and manners in which perpetrators use to control and exert power on their partner:

• A sense of self-importance

• Living in a fantasy world related to their brilliance, abilities, power and attractiveness to others

• A constant need for praise and attention A sense of entitlement – whatever they want they should get

• No shame or guilt about how they treat others

• A lack of empathy ‘God complex’ – inflated feelings of personal ability, privilege, or infallibility

• They’re a convincing liar or con artist

• They live in the moment

• They never accept blame or the consequences of their actions

• Bullying, belittling or intimidating others

• Mirroring – accusing you of the things they’re doing

• Gaslighting

• Addictions – drugs, alcohol and/or sex An ‘all or nothing’ attitude to everything in their life

• Huge insecurities, low self-esteem and jealousy issues, even though they may project the opposite to you and others.

• Charming but dangerous!

This list is not exhaustive and many abuse comes in disguised and insidious ways. It is critical in the healing process that you know you are not alone and that support and help is all around. Family, friends, police, medical and legal professionals are just part of this safety net that you can fall back on.

One of the key goals of MetaWakening Coaching is to raise awareness about the often-hidden issue of domestic abuse and provide a safe space for survivors to share their stories. By breaking the silence and stigma surrounding domestic abuse, MetaWakening Coaching hopes to create a community of support and solidarity where survivors can find comfort, inspiration, and empowerment.

MetaWakening Coaching understands the unique struggles faced by individuals going through divorce or recovering from domestic abuse. Alice has personally experienced the pain and trauma of an abusive relationship, has made it her mission to empower others in similar situations to find healing and resilience. Empowering divorce coaching offered by MetaWakening Coaching is designed to provide clients with the tools, support, and resources they need to navigate the complexities of divorce with confidence and clarity. By working with a skilled coach who understands the emotional and practical challenges of divorce, clients can gain valuable insights, develop coping strategies, and set meaningful goals for their future.

Furthermore, post domestic abuse recovery services offered by MetaWakening Coaching aim to help survivors heal from their past traumas, rebuild their self-esteem, and create a life free from fear and insecurity. Through a combination of therapeutic techniques, empowerment exercises, and personalised support, survivors can embark on a journey of self-discovery and transformation.

If you are currently going through a divorce or recovering from domestic abuse, know that you are not alone. With the right support and guidance, you can emerge from this challenging time stronger, wiser, and more empowered than ever before. Reach out to MetaWakening Coaching today to start your journey towards healing and transformation.

If you are experiencing or you know someone who is in immediate danger or threats, don't hesitate to call your local legal enforcement authority, 000, 911, or 999.